I’ve been single for almost 4 years now and throughout those years I’ve dated a dozen of guys that I did not end up taking a risk with. Some might say that I am picky or choosy when it comes to liking someone but honestly speaking, I am not. I’ve had good break-ups and bad ones but I never told myself that I should stop believing in Love or anything romantic because that’s just the way life is. On the other hand though, I have told myself so many times that breaking up with someone teaches you a lesson and you are suppose to learn and live differently from those mistakes so here I am writing this post not because I want to tell you guys that this is the type of guy you deserve but to make you think if the person you are with is what you really want.
I made a list of things men has to do to prove that they are worth taking a risk with and a list of actions that women should consider doing for their significant other.
- You deserve a guy who can tell you that he likes you the moment he started feeling it.
The reason that I believe this is because a lot of guys out there can’t be blunt or honest about their feelings which kinda sucks for the girl because sometimes they just wait for you to say it so please do. May I remind you boys that girls love words, no matter how many times a girl tells you that you don’t have to say those 3 words that they always wait, it actually means that you have to say it. For the girl side, if you really wanna know that he likes you and you actually have feelings for him too, then please do the honor and say so. It doesn’t look bad if the girl is the one who admitted it, it just means you had the guts and he didn’t.
2. You deserve a gentlemen.
Yes! you read that right, being a gentlemen is not just opening the door or moving your chair for you. You girls deserve someone who can be gentle with words “who lets you finish what you are saying without butting in”, actions “who has the initiative to do something” and the most important is in case of any accidents, he thinks about saving you more than he wants to save himself. If you think I want some superhero then what you are thinking is wrong because no I don’t, a girl can feel weaker than boys sometimes, you don’t have to be the superior one or dominant one, let them be. Let them take care of you but you should take care of them as well.
3. You deserve a guy who can tell the world that you are officially together.
I’ve seen and encountered a lot of guys who hates taking pictures or posting cheesy comments in any social media but they actually changed for her. Girls are more emotional, YES that is true but boys can be emotional too and sometimes they act on things their girls want. You don’t deserve a guy who hides you and doesn’t want you to meet his friends or family because that only means that he is not sure if you are the girl for her. The same goes with the boys, you deserve a girl who can shout to the world that you are together. By the way, this opinion of mine exclude those young couples who has to hide it for the better, I don’t have anything against that.
4. You deserve a healthy relationship with your significant other.
There are a lot of unhealthy relationships but I’m not someone who can determine if its healthy or not. Although, in my opinion, a healthy relationship is when you both understand each other in so many ways such as with your work, with your responsibility to your family, every time you have a bad day, and with your goals and future plans. A healthy relationship is when you two sync with each other. You do not need to have the same goals, same responsibilities or same future plans because at the end of the day you will be helping each other achieve what you truly wants.
5. You deserve someone who can tell you that you are wrong and ugly straight to your face.
No matter what you do or whatever you did for that day, you deserve someone who can stand for their own beliefs because I believe everyone has their own beliefs and sometimes your significant other forgets about it because they are scared to lose you. The moment you let him/her agree to everything that you say, it only means that you guys will break up eventually or someone will cheat. Everyone deserves a strong companion.
These 5 list is not really a specific list of anything because they cover a lot of situations and in my own opinion, you deserve what you think you deserve. Don’t let me or anyone tell you otherwise.